OPIOOM addiction—
This type of drug addiction is powerful, as you have been expressing. OPIOOM stands for Other People’s Inferred Opinions Of Me. We are all socialized to be tuned in to how we may be affecting others by our behavior or what we say or how we express ourselves. This is not a bad thing. It is normal. But, we who have weight problems are under significant cultural pressure to hide our eating because of the common belief that overweight people don’t deserve to eat when they get hungry if they deserve to eat at all. To eat in public as an overweight person is to be judged as indulgent and spineless since avoiding food is “known” to be the antidote to being fat. We feel terrific pressure because of our addiction to the Inferred Opinions that other people have of Me. We don’t even really know what those opinions are, but we just Infer what they are, and they are never good. So, we have anxiety when we even think about eating in front of others, especially in a work environment. And we may also feel pressure about eating naturally when we are in a social situation. This is all understandable based on what we know about our cultural prejudices.
HOWEVER, it is possible to break the curse of OPIOOM addiction and the Feast or Famine Cycle that it promotes. It may take some practice, and certainly some courage, but it is worth the effort because the goal of OWNING YOUR DIET depends on it.
Sincerely,
Jean